I have never written a blog post under such pressure as I am feeling right now. Yesterday, BJ was called to the office at school where he was informed that I would no longer be allowed to sub at LCA because my blog had offended some unknown someone. I have removed the "offensive" material out of a desire to protect my husband from any further difficulty at work, and I am sincerely sorry for offending anyone. But I would like to say to whomever was offended that the written word always has one weakness: the lack of tone, body language, and eye contact to convey messages. I use sarcasm and hyperbole to make my blog more enjoyable for my friends and family who frequent my blog, and I believe that they read my blog knowing full well that I am serious about half of the time.
I was really enjoying substitute teaching, and the money was not a luxury but a necessity for our family. I have never been fired, and I have certainly never been looked down on in the way that I have experienced in this town. The site monitor I have for my blog shows me that people in the Frisco area have been doing Google searches on both BJ and myself as if they are looking for something. It is the duty of all Christians to lovingly confront their brother or sister when they feel they have witnessed a transgression, but the covert nature of this attack on my character has been not only unproductive, but I would venture to say harmful. It is extremely difficult to not regress into a state of cynicism when one is treated in this way within a community of Christians.
Lastly, I would like to ask for prayers as I deal with both the hurt and the anger that has come out of this incident. May God's plan of redemption always triumph in the muddles we humans get ourselves into.
9 comments:
Kalyn, Your post makes me wish we lived in the same city again. I feel the need for a major Fat Tuesday ranting session!! I have a few choice words for the person who complained about your blog, but I will refrain from posting them here so that I don't "offend" anyone. Just know this-- I'm sorry you have to live in a city full of mean, vengeful people. Hold your head high. You are a wonderful friend, wife, and person.
Thanks Brittany. Friends like you are the best. I love you.
I am so sorry a thing like this has happened to you. You are by far one of the sweetest , most caring people in this world. Anyone who knows you could not have taken the entry in the blog and made anything "bad" out of it. YOU do have a sense of humor - "unknown someone" obviously does not and obviously does not mind undermining a person they do not even Know! If I was a gambling person I would bet that "unknown someone" considers themself a Christian. The Christ I know would never have stabbed someone in their back and hid behind the big wigs while they do the dirty work. And the Christ I know would never have fired someone on the spot without ever asking a person their side of the story and loving them and explaining the problem, talking to them and praying with them - being a true Christian! Kalyn, I know you - you are the sweetest, most loving and caring person I know. You have a big heart and a hugh love for children and you will be the best mother in the world someday. I have cried so many tears over this situation and have prayed so hard for you and BJ. You do not deserve to be treated like this (no one does!). Do not let "unknown someone" (who is not big enough to face you) get you down. Keep that beautiful chin up, keep that sweet smile on your face. And always remember that you have the most Awesome God who will take care of you and who does LOVE you and who does know you and knows what is in your heart (and knows what is in "unknown someone's” heart also!) I love you.
A friend.
I want to hug you so much it hurts. I am praying for you. And I am praying that I never hurt someone like this or cause anyone to ever lose a job, I could not live with myself. I love you with all my heart. Love, Mom
Hang in there, baby. I love you.Daddy
Kalyn, It has been so hard to see the injustice you have had to take on the chin in this situation. You and BJ are two of the most honest, loving, and God seeking people we know. I feel so priveleged to have you as part of my family. By your attitude, God will be able to keep working in you no matter where you are or who you are exposed to. We love you and are so proud of you!
Mom G.
For: "unknown someone"
From: Kalyn's life-long friend
"Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will be forgiven; give, and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. FOR THE MEASURE YOU GIVE WILL BE THE MEASURE YOU GET BACK."
-Luke 6:37
For Kalyn:
"You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hid. Nor do men light a lamp and put it under a bushel, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven."
-Matthew 5:14
Never let anyone overshadow the beauty and purity that you possess inside and out.
I love you!
Kalyn...Chad is now in Irving, and I am here for the holidays. We understand what you are going through. Truth is, fellow Christians can be downright mean. And because we think they will be gentle and understanding, we are often blindsided by their pure lack of compassion. I don't know why it is, but this has been the case in every church I've been in. At our current church, we actually had an elder pull us aside after the Christmas service and told us that Chad was not going to heaven because he married me...and since I was previously married, I am an adulterer, thus also making Chad an adulterer.
Kalyn, the reason that people are trying to dig up trash on you is because you are a genuinely good Christian who is happy. You are extremely positive and your joy infects those around you. There are Christians, though, who cannot deal with that. It is the "what are they hiding" mentality in which they think "nobody's life is that good", thus they have to try and mess it up for you.
Anyway, keep your head up. E-mail me and let me know how to get in touch with you. If you're in town next week, maybe we can get together for lunch or something! I'm only about 15 min. from Frisco.
I found your blog when I did a search for Frisco Style Magazine, trying to contact them for something. I live in Frisco also. Then I was reading your blog, and see that you said Google records show people in Frisco google searching you. But I'm wondering, could it be that b/c your blog mentions Frisco Style magazine and Frisco, TX that a lot of people are hitting your blog after finding it by searching for something else? I don't know how it's all tracked or what records it shows you, but thought it might be an explanation. I didn't want you to think people were cyber stalking you if they're not, and thought maybe this explanation might make you feel better. I have lived in Frisco for 5 years and like it very much. I'm sorry it has'nt been a good place for you and know that God has something good in the future for you. Because He is God...and He is Good! :o)
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